The Eternal Question

Linda Esser kept secrets. One that she kept from me was that I was her best friend. I did not consciously know that until others began to tell me after she died. Maybe she thought it was understood, but Linda never told me, and that alone speaks volumes about Linda. She was a very private person even with those who knew her best. My perception of a best friend is someone you share everything with. We were very close for two decades and I shared everything with her, but it didn’t seem to go both ways. I knew there was a lot she didn’t tell me, but I figured she was telling someone else. It never occurred to me there were things that she told no one.

With her students of whatever age, in whatever forum, Linda was a bubbling, sparkling, enthusiastic enigma of power and inspiration. From the time I met her in 1989 she had an air of wisdom far beyond her years and she shared it openly with anyone who would listen.

Linda was a seeker and teacher of truth. She did the best she could to heal her life and spent the second half of it making incredible, amazing changes. It finally led her to Robert Smith who tapped on her once a week for six months. The healing changes that created were so phenomenal she left her former passions of teaching art and creating a worldwide peace organization, to devote herself completely to teaching FasterEFT tapping. Following and promoting Robert Smith became Linda’s passion as she taught thousands of people how to heal their lives, myself included.

I believe, because of her automatic, unconscious, emotional programming from a past that was far more traumatic than most, she became extremely resistant to letting anyone else tap on her. After I became a FasterEFT Practitioner, whenever I noticed her being triggered, I offered to tap on her. She always refused and said she tapped on herself daily. I have no doubt that was true. But even a practitioner can be persistent in resistance to revisit particular past traumas, especially ones that have been worked on many times before. That is something I have personally experienced, and my past traumas don’t begin to compare to hers. I believe we all need the help of an objective practitioner, with different perceptions, to help us see the camouflaged tree in the forest, or to simply be a companion and guide along an otherwise dark and lonely path.

In August 2010, she chose to have elective surgery to relieve pain she had not been able to tap away. All the years I knew Linda she had only gone to holistic health practitioners. I expressed my disbelief that she would choose surgery over letting someone else tap on her first. After surgery, she did not heal properly and lost twenty pounds in two months. She became extremely and visibly ill during the week of Practitioner Training seminars that October. Occasionally her color appeared darker than usual, but the next day it might appear normal.

Wednesday morning I spoke with her before the seminar when she was having severe pain. She said she was doing a liver cleanse. We agreed it might be best if she stop that during the seminar, since she had already been triggered about some major, emotional issues on Monday and Tuesday. By the end of the day she was so ill she could barely speak and Robert said, “Bless your heart sweetie. Someone needs to tap on Linda.” I already knew if she would let anyone it would have to be me, so I offered. Her first response was no, but I went back later and offered again saying to let me know if she changed her mind. A while after, she came to me and agreed to let me follow her home when she closed up the seminar room.

The first thing she said when we arrived home was, “I realized in the car that my whole life is a secret.” Linda went to bed. She still would not let me tap on her and asked to be left alone for a while. I went to the living room, but when I heard her call out in pain, I went back to her room and told her, “You have two options, either you let me tap on you or I am taking you to the Emergency Room.” She asked me to go to the pharmacy to get a heating pad for her abdomen, since that might distract her enough to let me tap on her. While I was gone she tapped on herself and with heating pad in place, she allowed me to begin a tapping session.

What happened then is protected by the confidentiality of a private session. What I can say in general terms is that it became obvious to me that her unconscious past references were supporting her symptoms, core beliefs and internal dialogue. After tapping two hours the pain subsided and she was resting peacefully exhausted when I left.

The next day Linda showed up at the seminar sparkling with life and looking like a million bucks. She thanked me for the session, said she had stopped the liver cleanse and had gone to the chiropractor that morning. She finished out the week in seemingly good health. She said she was tired, but showed up at Robert’s costume party on Friday night with boundless energy. When I left for my Kansas home on Saturday, I stopped by her house for a short visit. I didn’t know then that would be the last time I would see her in relative good health. She was tired and knew she needed to rest, but had not been able to turn down a request by a fellow practitioner who needed a session.

That was Linda’s pattern. She would often do sessions on her days off and extend a session past two hours if the client was not clear of an issue. She told me that she would continue to tap on the volunteer demos in her seminars, long after the seminar was due to end. She did not act on my suggestions to stop that and let them come to private sessions instead. She seemed to go non-stop and usually multi-task. She would say she wanted to spend time with me, but I could rarely get her to schedule it because she was over-obligated.

After she attended the TapFest in North Carolina in early November, we only had a few phone visits. The October Seminars had been hard for both of us and I told her I was still tired after three weeks. She said she was too, that she just couldn’t shake the tired feeling. She believed that tiredness was a symptom of resistance to move forward. She agreed she had been working too hard was taking some time off. Since our talks were not on Skype, I did not know that she continued to lose weight.

Linda was very excited about my upcoming trip overseas beginning December 3. She knew how much this trip meant to me, since it was my first time to visit my three grandchildren who live in Japan with my son and his Japanese wife. I had been too ill to travel before I healed from disability with her help and the daily practice of FasterEFT.

We agreed to Skype while I was in Japan, but I was enveloped in the excitement of travel, grandchildren, and living in a two-bedroom house with seven other people. When I was online, she was not. I figured it was either her resistance to technology or the 15-hour time difference. It didn’t seem unusual since I had difficulty connecting with others, too. A few days after Christmas I happened to briefly browse the home page on FaceBook one afternoon when I saw a post of Robert’s, “Keep Linda Esser in your prayers.” WHAT!? I did the time difference and it was 11:45 p.m. yesterday in Oklahoma. I didn’t care if I woke her up, something is serious and she’s not telling me, so I called Linda’s phone.

She answered and said, “Well, I’m still here.” She explained there were tests being done for gallbladder and stomach, but I didn’t realize until the end of the call that “here” meant she was in the hospital. I called on days I could get a connection or that our schedules allowed, but she was always waiting on more tests and more results.

Whatever it was, I believed she could heal it. I kept her in my thoughts and prayers, and rang the bell at the neighborhood temple for her on New Year’s Eve and one afternoon following. There was one more series of tests that was expected to wear her out for a day. I would be on a day trip with my son so we agreed I would call the day after.

The morning of my last day to spend alone with my son, in a sudden change of plans we opted out of a trip to Kyoto in favor of Mt. Shosha. Outside of the time I spent with my family, Mt. Shosha was the absolute high point of my trip and one of the happiest days of my life. After we climbed to the top, I rang the bell for Linda. Most bells are rung only at certain times. This is the Bell of Benevolence and can be rung anytime because it is for world peace. How appropriate, Linda will love that.

The detailed impact of that day was phenomenal for me, but deserves a dedicated story told another day. In short, to climb a mountain and be on my feet for over five hours with only two brief rests, I reached one of my remaining goals for proof of recovery. Every step I took was with the complete thankfulness for Linda teaching me how to heal so I could be there. I was enraptured with joyous energy, peace and gratitude.

That night I laid on my futon and felt the full impact of what I had experienced that day. I was overwhelmed with feelings I could not identify, which flowed freely into tears of amazement at what I had accomplished, and I knew it all connected to Linda.

The next morning, January 5, I received word that my uncle had passed. A few hours later Robert and I happened to show up online at the same time. He typed the news of Linda’s diagnosis into a chat. Fourth stage cancer, she didn’t want Chemo and was being released to Hospice Care. After my disbelief, denial, anger, grief and tapping, the chat segued into an hour-long video talk and tap with Robert.

My talks with Linda became brief. By January 11 when I got home to the USA Robert was in Australia. I was violently ill the first morning and up in the middle of the night on the fourteenth before going to my Uncle’s funeral. Robert was on Skype and we chatted again. I posed the questions now echoed by others.

Robert typed, “If she dies today she is healed. You need to heal.”

I replied, “Yes, I know, but what do we tell others who don't get it? Why did she die? Why couldn't she heal from the cancer? They will ask the questions. I am asking the questions.”

Robert Smith: “Here is the deal you are a master and are you healed. I am the teacher. I am healed. We are alive are we healed? Do we still have problems?”

Grace Jones: “Healed from some things, yes, but not totally healed. If she dies she will be totally healed, but if she heals and lives, she can help so many others heal.”

Robert Smith: “I agree. There are decisions she has made or has not addressed or would not let go…”

After a few days of rest at home I headed to Oklahoma to be with Linda and help her family care for her the last ten days of her life. Linda had made it very clear that she did not want any sadness or negative attitudes around her. Everything was to be positive. I honored her request, but ultimately wondered, why do we keep death a secret from the dying?

Linda didn’t want others to see her near the end when she was gaunt with jaundice skin stretched over bone. One day as I helped her sit up, she said, “Look at me! I’m only 50.” I put my hand on her head and said, “I’ve always believed you are an old soul,” and she replied flippantly, “Yeah, ancient.” I believe her words are true.

As I sat with her, there were some moments when she was very lucid and let me know she had come to understand some things she would do differently. In these days I received several messages to carry forward, which I call the Cardinal Principles, another story unto itself.

Did Linda tap on her deathbed? I cannot say for sure, since I wouldn’t know if she mentally tapped or not. As needed, I used Essential Oils and Healing Touch techniques on Linda. Then I sat beside her bed with her friend Susan chanting at the foot, and I surrogate tapped in a chant while Linda looked into my eyes as she took her last breaths. It was the most amazing experience of my life. I believe it helped her pass peacefully and I know it helped us.

Why did Linda die? When I told my 96-year-old mother the repeated questions had been asked again one morning via email, she responded, “Isn’t that the eternal question?” But mother understood, as I do, that in the context of Linda’s and my healing profession, it deserves attention. Why couldn’t she heal herself when she helped so many others to heal? Everyone must find their own answer. I have found mine. Who really knows? It’s all based in perception, theory and belief and we each have or own. Death holds the secrets.

I believe she pushed herself too hard for the benefit of others. She tried to do it all alone, she would rarely ask for help or accept it when offered. If she did, it wasn’t good enough, because it wasn’t how she would do it, and she might redo it her way. She didn’t seek medical help for a diagnosis until long after she had been very ill and lost much more weight, and she kept her illness a secret from family and friends.

As Linda would say, “Everything you do in the present is based on the past.” And so it was with her. She did the best she could, based on her past references. She healed so much of her life that most of you will never know and can’t possibly imagine. Forgive her and heal yourself. Linda would want that. She wouldn’t want anyone to turn away from FasterEFT on account of her death. Once her purpose for this life was fulfilled it was time for her to go on to new worlds of spiritual growth.

I believe there are some people who are carriers of wisdom and knowledge, who share freely with the world to benefit others. I have known many such people in my healing journey. It seems to pass through them without their fully incorporating it into their deepest selves. They teach truth, but may not be fully able to personally practice what they teach. They may be masterfully skilled at helping others sort out their problems, while they struggle to sort their own. I wonder if it is because they don’t realize they need a helper too, or fear that asking would diminish their stature. Maybe they are afraid to let their secrets out.

I hope something here has helped you find your answer. I know a lot that I am not free to share, so if in doubt, you can borrow from my belief. Linda fulfilled her purpose and is a Sparkling Spirit in The Universe. She didn’t cure her cancer, but she is now 100% healed and continues to help us heal. I can only imagine how difficult it was for such a large and powerful spirit to be confined in that tiny body. If she had been able to completely heal all her past traumas, her amazing power would have spread across the world, and so she has. I believe her power is now expanded across The Universe and more accessible to Honor All. I am eternally grateful she showed up in my life and yours.

Do I believe Cancer can be healed with FasterEFT? Yes, but it may require more time and persistence than Linda gave herself. Many people have healed fourth stage cancer with other holistic healing mind/body modalities, without Western Medical treatment. Two who healed more than 25 years ago are still living today, Louise Hay and Cheryl Canfield. If they can heal Cancer without tapping, you may be able to heal it with FasterEFT.

After reading some of Linda’s writing, I was stunned by how she truly had created her own reality. It was all there in the power of her repetitive thoughts, words and beliefs. There were things from her past and present that she still could not let go. If there is one single message I would give you to honor Linda it is this. Be the guardian of every thought, belief, word and secret you hold. If it is from an automatic program of your past, examine it closely, and if it does not serve you, release it and transform it to what you choose. Ask for help, accept help and be relentless in your persistence to heal. Make a conscious choice to take control of your thoughts, emotions and beliefs, because whatever they are will create your reality, life or death.

© Copyright B. Grace Jones 2011

Resisting Change Is Futile

Even if you resist taking action to change your life, your life will still change. You may hold on to what you have, your problems, unwanted behaviors, false beliefs, fears, bad habits, etc. because they make you feel safe. They feel comfortable because they are familiar, a known factor. If you practice acceptance saying, “That’s just the way I am, there’s nothing I can do about it,” you will still change. If you fear going inside to address and release the past references that have created your problems, because you are afraid of “who will I be without this?” it won’t prevent you from changing.

You will continue to practice your beliefs, behaviors, problems, or whatever you currently produce, and as you do you will get better and better at having them. Whatever you focus on and practice daily will increase. You are perfecting whatever you currently produce. If there is something you don’t want in your life that you are afraid to go to the cause to release because you fear the change it will bring, you have still made a choice to change by continuing to focus on, perpetuate and practice what you don’t want, it will change as you get better at having that problem.

The choice is yours. Either way you will not stay the same, you will change. Do you want to change for the worse, thinking you are just accepting your problem? Or do you want to change for the better, by going inside and addressing the cause of your symptoms? Releasing the negative emotional charge to it, and change how you represent it in your mind. Make it a positive and then continue to practice that instead of the negative. Either way, you will change, and it’s your choice whether you want it to be a negative or positive one. Doing nothing is still a choice. Choose your changes wisely. Unless you choose the changes you want, change will make the choices for you.

© Copyright B. Grace Jones 2011

Pay It Forward: Japan Recycles and Rebuilds

My Japanese family is safe from immediate danger, and living near Osaka, but thoughts of the wonderful Japanese people came to me this morning. When I first saw earthquake video online last week, one impression was that we humans are just like ants, powerless against the forces of nature, swept away by a careless footfall or flood. The Japanese are busily responding to nature’s cataclysm as they tirelessly and selflessly clean up and begin to rebuild their homeland. Having just come from a five-week visit in Japan over the holidays, I have an entirely different perspective than I would otherwise have.

I was amused at the newscast where Diane Sawyer pointed out how organized they were in a disaster shelter by putting up a makeshift recycling center. I’m not sure she fully understood how automatic that is for the Japanese. It would be no different than Americans putting out an all-inclusive trashcan. For the Japanese, recycling is a way of life. It’s not something that just a few ecologically conscious souls practice. The entire nation practices constant recycling. They have no choice. That is how the refuse is collected. There is a calendar on the wall above the trashcan in the kitchen which indicates the specific types of trash to be collected on which days. In each home, mall, highway rest area, every public place, there are bins for separating it all. It is an amazing thing to watch, both in their behaviors and on the days the refuse collectors come to pick up the big items, like TVs, computers, furniture, etc.

During my entire visit to Japan, there were maybe two public restrooms that had paper towels. The Japanese each carry a small hand towel, about the size of a small washcloth, in a pocket or purse. These are either thin terrycloth or fabric like a heavy-duty handkerchief.

At the grocery store you don't get a nickle credit for bringing your own bag. If you forget to bring your own bags you have to pay a nickle for each plastic bag. That's the system the USA needs to adopt.

After arriving and preparing to depart from Osaka-Kansai airport, I noticed that it is situated on an island in the bay. Strangely, the shape of the island is rectangular. I was told that is because the island was made from refuse and there is one similar in Tokyo Bay also with an airport on top. When I watched some personal video posts that were taken during the earthquake, there was one showing the ground cracking across sidewalks and water seeping up there and across the park in the grass. It seemed strange until the explanation was given that this was an island man-made from rocks built up in the water. I would guess it also included refuse.

My first introduction to how the Japanese approach refuse-handling was when Josh, Naho and Yoshifumi (Naho’s brother) came to visit me in 2004 when I was living in Anchorage, Alaska. We had a wonderful visit over the holidays and New Year’s Day was their last day there. In Japanese tradition, all the food for that holiday had been prepared the day before, so Josh and I took the Japanese siblings down Turnagain Arm to Beluga Point to see the wonderful sights. We Americans jumped out of the car and scurried over the railroad tracks, which were scattered with the remnants of fireworks from the night before. We looked back from water’s edge to see Naho and Yoshifumi bending over the railroad tracks, picking up all the trash left by thoughtless Americans. We called to them to leave it and come look at the waves and mountains, but they remained dutifully gathering everything into a cardboard box that had also been left behind. We finally gave up our derailed expedition and went back to the railroad tracks where they had finished and Naho politely asked me if she could put the box in my trunk and take it to a dumpster. Yes, of course, but when we got in the car we had words.

First of all, I was embarrassed that our Japanese visitors were cleaning up after careless Americans. I told her that wasn’t necessary, that the railroad company would have someone clean it up. We argued this point with passion and courtesy. Naho would not back down. I knew her English was very good, but still I tried to explain in every possible way, that we did not bring them out there to pick up trash. We wanted them to see the natural beauty of the Alaskan landscape. She insisted that it was not good enough to wait for whenever the railroad company would clean it up. They had been taught to clean up whatever they came upon so that the next person to arrive there would be able to see the beauty without the distraction of trash. She had stopped me in my tracks and the argument ended with us agreeing from then on we would help them, but they had to at least take time to look at the beauty also.

In Japan, one of the first things I noticed was how clean everything was, the cars, streets, homes, yards, public buildings, parks, etc. They are not perfect and are still cleaning up along the Ibogawa River. It was flooded a year earlier and there are still some traces of straggling trash. When I asked Naho to stop the car for a photo op at a pullout along a winding road that overlooked the bay, I noticed a collection of trash scattered there. I had an impulse to start collecting it, but decided not to make it a point, since we now had three children under age four in the car. Ninety-seven percent clean was perfectly clean enough that day and I didn’t want to embarrass Naho. (Now I wonder how she will feel when she reads this.)

It will take decades for the Japanese to clean up from the earthquake and tsunami of March 11, 2011, but they will get it done collectively and efficiently. They are bonded to their neighbors and relatives in ways Americans cannot fully understand. When you see someone on the newscast grieving the loss of a neighbor, I assure you it’s not just someone who lived down the street. Their neighbors are their personal friends for many good reasons that have evolved over the centuries. But those are stories for another day.

© Copyright B. Grace Jones 2011

Linda Esser: My Healing Star

Click to hear the audio of Linda Esser's Memorial Service, Feb. 3, 2011.

How do I encapsulate such an amazingly huge presence of love, hope, passion and peace that Linda Esser embodied? It is absolutely beyond words. Yet words are what I was asked to create, so I humbly do my best.

Our sweet Linda Esser honored me and Susan Bradley by allowing us to assist her in her transition into perfect healing and eternal love. Every step I take is with gratitude for her life and passion for FasterEFT. I was able to care for Linda in ways that gave me the certainty that I have now fully recovered from my disability. Thanks be to God, Linda Esser, Robert Smith and my willingness to tap every day.

Linda has been my dear sweet friend and mentor since 1989 and I considered it one of my highest honors to assist her in her last days and hours. Linda stayed true to herself every moment. The next day I sat endlessly, either on the phone or at my computer, receiving a steady stream of emails, FaceBook comments and phone calls. So many wonderful words expressed, I wish there were time to share them all with you, but they are still pouring in. Here are three of my favorites.

“She may no longer be visible on this planet, yet she remains a light in the universe.”
—Cheryl Unruh


"what a celebration there must have been in welcoming home such a spiritual warrior…”
—Jaeson Post

“Even as my heart is heavy with sadness, I am also full of new hope and joy at the prospect of living a life worth living. I know Linda's passing will mean different things to different people, but for me, it has been a reminder that *I* must give my life the meaning, the passion and the joy that I so crave. To create the Life of my dreams...

In Linda's death, she breathes New Life.” —Christin McLeod

The most repeated comment was, “I’m shocked! What happened?” I wish the answer were as simple as, “She was diagnosed with fourth stage cancer in early January and was released to Hospice Care.” But for anyone who witnessed Linda’s passion for healing and remarkable skills as a FasterEFT Master Practitioner, we can’t help but explore other answers. Based on our conversations and observations, those of us closest to Linda have our theories, but this is not the time or place for that. I will be writing some of those thoughts to post on my blog. When I do, I hope you will join the conversation and shed whatever light you might give, so that we all may try to understand. If it helps one other person to live better, it will truly honor Linda.

My heart goes out to each and every one of you. We are here today because of Linda’s mission to “Honor All.” She has fulfilled her purpose and she has definitely honored each one of us. Many of us have regrets, maybe that we didn’t spend more time with her. Sometimes that was hard because she was most often working on a project she was passionate about.

One of my regrets is that I never went to see her in the “Trashion Fashion Show,” one of her beloved C.A.S.T. projects. Two years ago, I was staying with her the week before, but couldn’t stay for the event. It was great fun to see the stylish dresses made out of chip bags, or some other particles of trash, and hear the excitement in her voice as she told me exactly how she would accessorize it. A year ago, I was visiting with her after the show and she told me about how everybody there wanted to talk to her. She said, “You know, I may just have to wear trash more often.” Of course, we all know it wasn’t her eclectic fashions that drew people to her, it was her radiant smile, her deeply warm love and her boundless enthusiasm for whatever she was doing in the moment.

In the 90s after my divorce, I told her I was longing to find my “soul mate.” Linda said, “You know, I truly believe that my soul mate is always right in front of me. My purpose is to love whoever I am with at any given moment.” We are all Linda’s soul mates. Even in her last days of waning physical strength, I watched Linda intently listen and talk to the nurse she had just met. They were not talking about Linda, they were talking about the nurse. As the nurse was leaving the house she told me, “It’s just not fair. I wish I could have met her years ago.” We did. We were the fortunate ones. All of us who knew her, or even met her one time are blessed beyond words.

I have experienced for many years that nature is a powerful healing force. I pay attention when a creatures shows up in my life. That is why I am also known as Denali Dragonfly. In 2005 I had a Cardinal hit the windshield directly in front of my sight. That led me to study and learn that if a creature gives it’s life, it has a very important message to deliver. I had been caring for Linda for several days, when one night, sitting on the edge of her bed, I looked up and saw for the first time the Cardinal ornament on her nightstand. Instantly I recognized the metaphor. I knew with certainty that Linda is my Cardinal and signals my need to understand and deliver the important messages I was receiving from her. On Friday she was still lucid and chose to wear a cardinal red shirt after her bath. Saturday when the nurse encouraged her to change her shirt, she refused. Linda passed wearing the cardinal red shirt and confirmed the metaphor.

In my mind, I can hear Linda’s voice say, “I love you.” I can hear her playful laugh and see her radiant smile eclipse her eclectic fashions. We must feel it to heal it. Honor your feelings, whatever comes up, release it completely and go to your happiest memory of Linda. These are the good gifts we get to keep, forever loving Linda. Linda IS a bright and sparkling star in each of our lives. Linda’s legacy will live on in our hearts, minds and spirits. We each have a piece of her with us and we can now choose to keep that piece in the emotional peace she achieved.

As she departed, Linda participated in the releasing and letting go process that created inner peace in her life and in many of ours. We honor her and we “Honor All” as we continue to release our grief and create inner peace, which will resound in the world peace that she so passionately promoted. Linda has transformed from our physical presence, but her spiritual presence will always be surrounding us with her love, laughter, passion and radiant light. Linda will always be My Healing Star.

© Copyright B. Grace Jones 2011

Q&A: What do I do if I tapped and my Fibromyalgia is still there?

Q Guai4life has made a comment on YouTube video 31. How To Tap Faster EFT Style, Grace Jones:
what do you do when you have tapped all of my bad past and my fibromyalgia is still there what do i do?

A Because the unconscious mind is about 90% in control, I don’t believe it is possible to be certain that I have tapped away all my bad memories. My experience has been that the more stuff I clear, the more stuff comes up to be cleared. Sometimes memories I have cleared will pop up months later, with a different aspect that I did not address previously. So, I tap that away too. This is all normal. FasterEFT is a set of powerful coping skills that I will continue to use daily the rest of my life.

The way I primarily cleared my Fibromyalgia symptoms was to identify when they first began and when they became more severe and frequent. I asked myself, “What was going on in my life before and during those times?” This led me to several physical and emotional traumas and when I cleared those, my symptoms began to decrease. From the very beginning I continued daily practice of FasterEFT to release whatever comes up.

If you don’t have memories, then tap on whatever physical symptoms you have or however you know you have this problem. It may be a feeling, a picture, a sound, smell, etc. Maybe it is just a knowing or a belief. Keep it simple and just tap on one specific thing at a time, until it is gone, then flip it to positive before you move onto the next. As you tap, continue to ask your mind to give you answers to where this may have come from.

Whenever I have a symptom, I begin tapping on the physical sensations and ask my mind, “What could be the past references that support this?” Whatever my mind gives me, even if I think it is totally unrelated, I go to it and clear it. Then something else may pop in. As I go to each memory and clear it, my unconscious mind continues to reveal more memories. It leads me down a path, which eventually may take me to the big memory that will give me the big changes I desire. But first, I had to clear a lot of memories that seemed unrelated. This may take three hours, three months or more. The key is to keep tapping. Persistence is your best friend. Everyone is different. Some people have tapped on things for over a year before they got the desired relief, but they persisted and they succeeded.

If at all possible it is best to do several sessions with a FasterEFT practitioner to be sure you are applying all the key aspects of the techniques. If you are tapping on your own (without practitioner guidance), study all the free FasterEFT videos online and follow the instructions as closely as possible. In the beginning, it helped me to take notes and tap along with the videos online. If it wasn’t the same issue as mine, I aimed at my issue and kept replaying the video until mine was clear.

Another huge help was to buy some of Robert Smith’s FasterEFT Training DVDs. I would watch one each morning as part of my daily routine while I was drinking my tea. I would tap along with all the demos. It is a great boost to getting my day started and certainly worth every minute and every penny.

If you have further questions, please leave them below in the comments section of this blog post. Click here to order FasterEFT Training DVDs under the products tab.

I hope this helps. Love & Peace, Grace

Q&A: Body Shivering in Stress and "What Will They Think?"

Q Hello Grace, 

I just wanted to ask. I've been solving one problem very long time. My body shivers when I get into stressful situations and I cannot control my body. I can calm down my mind but my body doesn't listen to my mind and shiver on and in that stressful situation I cannot stop it. I've solved this problem partly - I had social phobia and my body shivered every time when I met someone strange, new or when I had to talk in front of people. I have already solved this part with EFT. However there are still situations when I have problems with my body control and it's been almost one year and I tap everyday and the problem is still in my body. My mind is fine, I feel well and strong in my head but my body seems to be so weak and scared in stressful situations and I don't know why. Have you met this problem? What do you think about it. I'd love to know your opinion. Thank you very much!

I wish you a nice day. ♥

Jana Šklíbová

A Dear Jana,
Sometimes it seems the more I clear past references, the more past references show up to be cleared. It is like the layers of the onion. Will I ever reach the center? Will I ever be 100% free? Based on the structure of problems and my personal experience, I have realized that there are some automatic programs that are so heavily supported with past references that they may never go away completely. But, they will definitely not have the same level of control over me they once did. Plus, I can change how I internally represent them and lessen their affect on my present moment.

My example is about all the work I have done around the issue of “What will they think?” I have tapped on that for over a year. In order to write my book I had to address and release all kinds of past references, especially regarding my family members and past romantic relationships. I was diligent and thorough, and thought I had left no stone unturned. Then I had a big surprise. Something I had completely forgotten about from high school was triggered without warning. It was huge and I needed help from another practitioner to clear it, and I am still working on little parts and pieces of it.

What I have realized is that the automatic program for “What will they think?” is so fundamental to our survival from the time we are born, that it is not likely I can clear every single reference. A little child must continually be concerned about “what will they think?” in order to survive in our environment. How else would we learn how not to get into trouble with our parents? The key for me is to realize that what I think they are thinking is not really what they are thinking. That’s where I get into trouble. No one can ever completely know what someone else is thinking. It is best to ask them, and even then a clear understanding is elusive, because the words they choose my not mean the same to me as to them. In other words, whatever they say is still filtered through my beliefs, experiences and perceptions. That’s why communication is so important and so tricky. So whatever I think they are thinking is more about me than them. It’s about how I internally represent my world. That’s the real stuff I need to tap on.

You may wonder what all this has to do with your question about shivering in stress. The point is, that whatever the past references are, there may be many that you cannot possibly remember. The main thing is to be persistent. Don’t give up five minutes before the miracle. You have experienced mental and emotional release, so keep tapping on the physical symptoms. As you tap, ask your mind to give you the past references. Whatever comes up, regardless of whether or not it seems to relate, address it and release it anyway. Keep following the trail. My experience in healing is that your unconscious will eventually lead you where you need to go to heal at a deeper level. It is always acting in love on your behalf to protect and heal you. Accept yourself right where you are now and gratefully receive whatever healing comes for you today. Continue to tap on the physical symptoms, every sensation or aspect.

You are not alone. I have a client with a similar situation and it has not gone away completely, yet she is still tapping regardless. If she has a breakthrough, I will let you know. Yours may be shivering, Helga's was back pain and she tapped for over a year before her breakthrough. Just keep tapping. It is like the proverbial boulder being split in two. Was it the 100th blow of the sledge hammer that broke it, or was it the 99 preceding blows? Every blow counts as part of the process, even though we see no progress in the 99 that go before the last. Persistence is the key. Just keep tapping on whatever comes up. You will be as glad that you did as I am. Healing is a process, not a destination.

Love & Peace,
Grace

Neuroscience and FasterEFT

Thanks Grace. I will look into it. I will consider buying the Ultimate Training set.

By the way, I am doing tapping and a lot of NLP/life coaching stuff in my Life Empowerment class that I offer every week. Robert's system is very NLPish, and I love it.

I am a Neuroscientist by day as I am a professor at a small college and do research on how information is processed in the brain. Robert's ideas fit with a lot of the recent research in Neuroscience.

Please feel free to share what I say with anyone (especially Robert). There is actually Neuroscience research, which is fairly new, that supports his notion of "changing the memory". And other Neuro evidence supporting his other concepts, and some of the NLP claims.

Unfortunately for me, I wasn't able to use tapping with clients until I figured out the mechanism behind it. It was the Scientist in me that held me back. As I realized the connection between Robert's explanations of tapping and Neuroscience mechanisms, I became free to use it. Now I use it with other NLP techniques and am able to help a lot of people.

Peace,
Ed
Edward Schicatano

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