Q&A: What do I do if I tapped and my Fibromyalgia is still there?

Q Guai4life has made a comment on YouTube video 31. How To Tap Faster EFT Style, Grace Jones:
what do you do when you have tapped all of my bad past and my fibromyalgia is still there what do i do?

A Because the unconscious mind is about 90% in control, I don’t believe it is possible to be certain that I have tapped away all my bad memories. My experience has been that the more stuff I clear, the more stuff comes up to be cleared. Sometimes memories I have cleared will pop up months later, with a different aspect that I did not address previously. So, I tap that away too. This is all normal. FasterEFT is a set of powerful coping skills that I will continue to use daily the rest of my life.

The way I primarily cleared my Fibromyalgia symptoms was to identify when they first began and when they became more severe and frequent. I asked myself, “What was going on in my life before and during those times?” This led me to several physical and emotional traumas and when I cleared those, my symptoms began to decrease. From the very beginning I continued daily practice of FasterEFT to release whatever comes up.

If you don’t have memories, then tap on whatever physical symptoms you have or however you know you have this problem. It may be a feeling, a picture, a sound, smell, etc. Maybe it is just a knowing or a belief. Keep it simple and just tap on one specific thing at a time, until it is gone, then flip it to positive before you move onto the next. As you tap, continue to ask your mind to give you answers to where this may have come from.

Whenever I have a symptom, I begin tapping on the physical sensations and ask my mind, “What could be the past references that support this?” Whatever my mind gives me, even if I think it is totally unrelated, I go to it and clear it. Then something else may pop in. As I go to each memory and clear it, my unconscious mind continues to reveal more memories. It leads me down a path, which eventually may take me to the big memory that will give me the big changes I desire. But first, I had to clear a lot of memories that seemed unrelated. This may take three hours, three months or more. The key is to keep tapping. Persistence is your best friend. Everyone is different. Some people have tapped on things for over a year before they got the desired relief, but they persisted and they succeeded.

If at all possible it is best to do several sessions with a FasterEFT practitioner to be sure you are applying all the key aspects of the techniques. If you are tapping on your own (without practitioner guidance), study all the free FasterEFT videos online and follow the instructions as closely as possible. In the beginning, it helped me to take notes and tap along with the videos online. If it wasn’t the same issue as mine, I aimed at my issue and kept replaying the video until mine was clear.

Another huge help was to buy some of Robert Smith’s FasterEFT Training DVDs. I would watch one each morning as part of my daily routine while I was drinking my tea. I would tap along with all the demos. It is a great boost to getting my day started and certainly worth every minute and every penny.

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I hope this helps. Love & Peace, Grace

Q&A: Body Shivering in Stress and "What Will They Think?"

Q Hello Grace, 

I just wanted to ask. I've been solving one problem very long time. My body shivers when I get into stressful situations and I cannot control my body. I can calm down my mind but my body doesn't listen to my mind and shiver on and in that stressful situation I cannot stop it. I've solved this problem partly - I had social phobia and my body shivered every time when I met someone strange, new or when I had to talk in front of people. I have already solved this part with EFT. However there are still situations when I have problems with my body control and it's been almost one year and I tap everyday and the problem is still in my body. My mind is fine, I feel well and strong in my head but my body seems to be so weak and scared in stressful situations and I don't know why. Have you met this problem? What do you think about it. I'd love to know your opinion. Thank you very much!

I wish you a nice day. ♥

Jana Šklíbová

A Dear Jana,
Sometimes it seems the more I clear past references, the more past references show up to be cleared. It is like the layers of the onion. Will I ever reach the center? Will I ever be 100% free? Based on the structure of problems and my personal experience, I have realized that there are some automatic programs that are so heavily supported with past references that they may never go away completely. But, they will definitely not have the same level of control over me they once did. Plus, I can change how I internally represent them and lessen their affect on my present moment.

My example is about all the work I have done around the issue of “What will they think?” I have tapped on that for over a year. In order to write my book I had to address and release all kinds of past references, especially regarding my family members and past romantic relationships. I was diligent and thorough, and thought I had left no stone unturned. Then I had a big surprise. Something I had completely forgotten about from high school was triggered without warning. It was huge and I needed help from another practitioner to clear it, and I am still working on little parts and pieces of it.

What I have realized is that the automatic program for “What will they think?” is so fundamental to our survival from the time we are born, that it is not likely I can clear every single reference. A little child must continually be concerned about “what will they think?” in order to survive in our environment. How else would we learn how not to get into trouble with our parents? The key for me is to realize that what I think they are thinking is not really what they are thinking. That’s where I get into trouble. No one can ever completely know what someone else is thinking. It is best to ask them, and even then a clear understanding is elusive, because the words they choose my not mean the same to me as to them. In other words, whatever they say is still filtered through my beliefs, experiences and perceptions. That’s why communication is so important and so tricky. So whatever I think they are thinking is more about me than them. It’s about how I internally represent my world. That’s the real stuff I need to tap on.

You may wonder what all this has to do with your question about shivering in stress. The point is, that whatever the past references are, there may be many that you cannot possibly remember. The main thing is to be persistent. Don’t give up five minutes before the miracle. You have experienced mental and emotional release, so keep tapping on the physical symptoms. As you tap, ask your mind to give you the past references. Whatever comes up, regardless of whether or not it seems to relate, address it and release it anyway. Keep following the trail. My experience in healing is that your unconscious will eventually lead you where you need to go to heal at a deeper level. It is always acting in love on your behalf to protect and heal you. Accept yourself right where you are now and gratefully receive whatever healing comes for you today. Continue to tap on the physical symptoms, every sensation or aspect.

You are not alone. I have a client with a similar situation and it has not gone away completely, yet she is still tapping regardless. If she has a breakthrough, I will let you know. Yours may be shivering, Helga's was back pain and she tapped for over a year before her breakthrough. Just keep tapping. It is like the proverbial boulder being split in two. Was it the 100th blow of the sledge hammer that broke it, or was it the 99 preceding blows? Every blow counts as part of the process, even though we see no progress in the 99 that go before the last. Persistence is the key. Just keep tapping on whatever comes up. You will be as glad that you did as I am. Healing is a process, not a destination.

Love & Peace,
Grace

Neuroscience and FasterEFT

Thanks Grace. I will look into it. I will consider buying the Ultimate Training set.

By the way, I am doing tapping and a lot of NLP/life coaching stuff in my Life Empowerment class that I offer every week. Robert's system is very NLPish, and I love it.

I am a Neuroscientist by day as I am a professor at a small college and do research on how information is processed in the brain. Robert's ideas fit with a lot of the recent research in Neuroscience.

Please feel free to share what I say with anyone (especially Robert). There is actually Neuroscience research, which is fairly new, that supports his notion of "changing the memory". And other Neuro evidence supporting his other concepts, and some of the NLP claims.

Unfortunately for me, I wasn't able to use tapping with clients until I figured out the mechanism behind it. It was the Scientist in me that held me back. As I realized the connection between Robert's explanations of tapping and Neuroscience mechanisms, I became free to use it. Now I use it with other NLP techniques and am able to help a lot of people.

Peace,
Ed
Edward Schicatano

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